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by Nick’s Reason
Love is not something that needs to be ‘found’ or ‘felt’ in any great intuitive way. Love is a skill that requires discipline. I can love anyone. In a sexual relationship, all that is required is a sexual attraction and the rest of the love thing is the application and discipline of the skill, love.
Now, taking it the next step further, to love someone for a lifetime will require other calculations to be made which are again not something that needs to be ‘found’ or ‘felt’ but simply measured, understood and reciprocal. These include character, values & goals.
With the ingredients of sexual attraction, the application of the loving skill and the measured reciprocation of character, values, and goals you have the recipe of a lifelong relationship.
The love of a sexual relationship by this definition isnât any different to how one would love all their other kin (minus the sexuality)
—âI Love Youâ means âI promise that if you test the hypothesis that my happiness depends on your own, against my actions, you will not find it untrueâ— Eli Harman